Making TEA
Worries, Concerns and more
Wednesday, June 02, 2010
Worries, concerns & fears, oh my!
As a parent of a teen, how much time do you take to check in with yourself... really explore how you feel about all the parts of your life? My guess is that your answer is between, “Not often enough” and “Rarely.”
Take a minute for a few simple questions... and make the time, maybe now or maybe later, to think through and develop your complicated answers..You will be glad you did!
• What are your concerns about and for your teen right now?
• What are your fears about your daughter’s/son’s future?
• How do you handle your fears? What methods do you use to reflect on your worries and move into action to conquer them?
At this time of year, with seniors’ graduations looming, juniors in the midst of the search for colleges, and summer programs/adventures in the near future, what are you thinking about...
• your dreams for your teen
• your teen’s...
dreams
safety
choices (friends, relationships, alcohol, drugs, sexuality, sex)
Who do you talk with when you want to share your concerns, talk through your ideas, seek guidance or wisdom? Do you approach your partner, family members, friends, a coach? Or, do you prefer to read articles and books or check websites for parents? Do you have a small network of resources that support you in stepping into conversations about your fears? In essence, how do you move from fearful and anxious to thoughtful and action-oriented?
In handling your own anxieties you are moving forward on several levels: working through your own quandries, becoming a good role model/providing an example for your teen (if you demonstrate or talk with your teen about your approach to fearsome topics), and, showing, that you may be able to support your teen when s/he has worries too. Creating a vision and a plan for conquering your fears is the “what to do,” finding your path and walking it, is the “how to do it.” Using your trusted resources, or discovering new ones to help you address your apprehensions, is a solution and a gift you to give yourself!
Jill Greenbaum, Ed.D., supports families through change, coaching teens and having conversations with parents... Coaching & Conversation.
t| 1.845.369.6026 c| 1.201.294.1828
blog: www.majorinyou.com/blog
FB: www.facebook.com/jillgreenbaum
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As a parent of a teen, how much time do you take to check in with yourself... really explore how you feel about all the parts of your life? My guess is that your answer is between, “Not often enough” and “Rarely.”
Take a minute for a few simple questions... and make the time, maybe now or maybe later, to think through and develop your complicated answers..You will be glad you did!
• What are your concerns about and for your teen right now?
• What are your fears about your daughter’s/son’s future?
• How do you handle your fears? What methods do you use to reflect on your worries and move into action to conquer them?
At this time of year, with seniors’ graduations looming, juniors in the midst of the search for colleges, and summer programs/adventures in the near future, what are you thinking about...
• your dreams for your teen
• your teen’s...
dreams
safety
choices (friends, relationships, alcohol, drugs, sexuality, sex)
Who do you talk with when you want to share your concerns, talk through your ideas, seek guidance or wisdom? Do you approach your partner, family members, friends, a coach? Or, do you prefer to read articles and books or check websites for parents? Do you have a small network of resources that support you in stepping into conversations about your fears? In essence, how do you move from fearful and anxious to thoughtful and action-oriented?
In handling your own anxieties you are moving forward on several levels: working through your own quandries, becoming a good role model/providing an example for your teen (if you demonstrate or talk with your teen about your approach to fearsome topics), and, showing, that you may be able to support your teen when s/he has worries too. Creating a vision and a plan for conquering your fears is the “what to do,” finding your path and walking it, is the “how to do it.” Using your trusted resources, or discovering new ones to help you address your apprehensions, is a solution and a gift you to give yourself!
Jill Greenbaum, Ed.D., supports families through change, coaching teens and having conversations with parents... Coaching & Conversation.
t| 1.845.369.6026 c| 1.201.294.1828
blog: www.majorinyou.com/blog
FB: www.facebook.com/jillgreenbaum
[twitter: www.twitter.com/jillgreenbaum
